Leading From The Margins

ImageOur staff and students recently returned from Spring Break, that ever-so-coveted time of the year when we take time off from our normal routine. Some chose to visit exciting places. Some chose to relax. Some chose to catch up on various home improvement projects. But this made me reflect on what choices I make during the “down time” of my life.

I was raised to work long hours and to exhaust whatever energy was needed to get the job done. Because of this, my tendency is to push through and not slow down. You may be like me.

Or maybe you’re like a few others that I know (no names mentioned), that turn work into a four letter word….well, you get what I mean. It’s something to avoid at all costs.

As a leader, you will be observed ALL THE TIME. What kind of message do you want to send those you lead? Here are some things to consider:

  1. Life-balance may be a myth. I tend to think of it as adjusting the proper tension as one area of life demands more attention than others at various times. Read “The Stress of the Stretch” for more on this.
  2. You may need more discipline.  What area of your life is the weakest right now? Do you need to do a better job of monitoring your finances? How’s your marriage? What about your health? The answer could be as simple as sharpening your sword.
  3. Sometimes the most responsible thing you can do is rest. After battling mononucleosis for a year, I learned this lesson. I wish I had listened to friends and family. But I thought overextending myself was noble. What I learned was that I can’t help anyone if I’m not healthy, relaxed, and sharp. You have to take care of yourself SO THAT you can help others.

The hours of margin in your life are a gift. It’s those times in the early morning, the late evening, during times off work, etc. How you use them are up to you.

Question:  Considering how you handle your down time, do you have any tips for the readers who struggle in this area?

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Where Leadership Begins

ImageWhy do you want to be a leader? Who’s name are you REALLY trying to build? These are questions that I must constantly ask myself.

You see, true leadership is much more than a job title. As John Maxwell once said, “A leader has to have followers”. You may have a job title that is at the bottom of the totem pole, but because of your personality and skill, others respect your opinion and look to you for answers and guidance. If this is the case, then you my friend are a full fledged leader. And one day, the corporate world will take notice and reward you with a position that reflects that. Sounds great doesn’t it? But why do you want to pursue that? Really?

Something I have found is this:

“Leadership begins with serving others.”

I don’t know how many times I get interrupted throughout the day. Someone usually walks in with a variation of “Do you have just a minute?”, or “I really hate to bother you, but…”. And if the truth were told in some cases, I really don’t have a minute. And yes, you are interrupting me. And if leadership was all about getting things on my to-do list checked off, then I’d just shut my door the entire day and have everyone make appointments to see me. But leadership isn’t as much about me. It’s about the people who have placed their trust in me. I am duty-bound to help them achieve their goals for the day. They are why I am there to begin with.

So when someone asks, “Do you have just a minute?”, the answer is usually, “I always have a minute for you. What can I do for you?” Leadership begins with serving. Help others achieve their goals and you’ll soon find yourself leading a tremendously supportive staff.

Question:  Can you share an example of outstanding service from a leader that you greatly admire?

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I’m back!

Sorry for not posting this week. Things have been busy with home, preparing for ISTEP, and I finally overcame the flu. That’s life I guess. :-) Thanks for your patience. You can expect more posts to come next week.

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The Art of Appreciation Letters

ImageThank you. I admire you. I appreciate you. These are such simple words to say, but few of us take time to say them. You and I have each been in that place where we needed a word of encouragement. Do you remember how it felt? Hopeless, fearful, and lonely. But someone was brave enough, someone loved you enough to speak life and courage into you when you most needed it.

I have several examples of times I needed to hear some encouragement.

Anytime I’ve had to make a huge decision, my wife has been there to believe in me more than I believed in myself. 

Once, during a very stressful time of work, I left the office early in the morning to go handle bus duty. When I returned, my 8-year-old son had used my label maker to print a note that said, “I love you have a nice day”. It reminded me that I didn’t need to impress him. Someone (my son) loved me for who I already was.

During Valentines Day, I received several small gifts and cards from students and teachers. Two brightened my day the most. One was from a staff member that said, “You are a true blessing to our school. Thank you for all you do.”. Another from a tiny Kindergarten girl really made me smile. It had Barbie on it and said, “You’re a princess in progress”. I wasn’t sure how to take that one!

Finally, a staff member sent me an email today that was extremely encouraging. She said,

“Thanks for your help and for the endless hours you put in to make things run as smoothly as they can.  As my son calmly said to me a short while ago while I was pulled aside at a gas station, “Let’s take this thing one battle at a time!”  It’s when people I influence say calming and encouraging things like that, I am reminded I must be doing something right.  You have done many good things for our school in the short time you have been here.  Thank you for leading us.”.

Question: Who do you need to encourage today?

Two minutes can change their entire day. Please comment below and let us know some of the most encouraging things you’ve heard lately.

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